January 14, 2026
The fallout from Ashley Tisdale’s viral essay about leaving a ‘toxic’ mom group has taken another turn, and this time Glee alum called out Hilary Duff’s husband, Matthew Koma.
During a recent episode of her LadyGang podcast, Becca Tobin slammed Koma for commenting on the situation.
She said his involvement felt inappropriate.
"I don’t think there’s any loser. There’s no loser in this group to me. Not one. Except for Hilary Duff’s husband," Tobin said to the cohosts, Keltie Knight and Jac Vanek.
"I think it is so gross when husbands jump in and get petty."
Tobin emphasized that the issue was between mothers and that Koma’s commentary crossed a line.
"Especially since Ashley did not name names. If Ashley had come out and said Hillary was said person being a mean girl, I would understand the husband coming to her defense. But I really am rubbed the wrong way when a man inserts himself like this and it's solely for him to get attention," she elaborated.
Tobin went further condemning Koma’s remarks as offensive.
"He attacked a woman," Tobin said.
"He called her self‑obsessed or whatever. He said something about her being self‑absorbed. And I think that’s so tacky. I would be so upset with my husband, whether or not I got along with this person, we had a falling out, whatever the thing is."
She added, "It’s like she goes low, and then he goes lower. And I think it’s actually really gross when a man comments on something like this. And it’s offensive. It’s offensive for what he said about her. I don’t like it at all."