Mostly women’s fault when marriage ends in divorce, claims Mrs Khan

Popular rishta aunty Mrs Khan, who recently came into the spotlight for her controversial remarks regarding married girls and gol rotis, claims that it is mostly women’s fault when a marriage ends in divorce.

Speaking on Geo Pakistan morning show on Monday, Mrs Khan said, “If a marriage ends, men are responsible too. However, it is 60 per cent the woman’s fault while the men are at 40 per cent fault when a divorce happens.”

When asked about her recent outrageous remarks on a private television show where she said women need to control their tongues and have rotis ready for their husbands when they come back from work, Mrs Khan said she had been receiving a lot of hate and abuse for her remarks.

“You have to understand in this age these are said because these things were running in my head,” Mrs Khan said. “If we look at the third generation and we say something strictly something to them [girls] they should be quiet.”

“Our elders used to say a lot of things to us and we used to listen quietly too, despite not liking them,” she shared.

“Our mothers-in-law used to say plenty of things to us as well and it was only later that we came to realise the importance of them and how good they were for us. We were not allowed to get angry at the time and retaliate and speak.”

When asked that her garam tawa and garam roti theory did not work with the modern working women, Mrs Khan said that she was a working woman and that she still gives a garam roti to her husband.

“We are hard working women too, agar aap ko koi baat buri lag rahi hai tou aap chup ho jain,” she said, adding that she does regret what she said on her now-viral television show appearance.

However, she admitted that she should have been softer in her tone. “My blood pressure was high and maybe I had other things on my mind. “

In response to a question about changing times, with girls having different expectations, Mrs Khan said she did not specifically ask the girls to keep their mouths shut.

“I was pointing towards the girls who are very opinionated, to not give tit for tat answers. Instead, give answers properly,” she stated.

When pointed out by television hosts that girls are the ones who are always called out for having opinions and never boys, Mrs Khan said, “It is true that boys should take care of the girls who leave their homes and everything, but the girls should be more compromising to keep the relationship intact.”

She further said she does not condone violence at all. “Violence should never be there. You should not think I am that orthodox. I was very fashionable in my time and of course, we had liberty.”

“But we used to stand shoulder to shoulder with our husbands in good and bad times,” she added.

Speaking about the term ijazat and what it means, Mrs Khan said if the girl wants to go somewhere she should go. “If she wants to go to her mother’s house she should. They should ask properly and go.”

Citing an example of the modern woman, Mrs Khan said her daughter is married into a house with four sisters-in-law and she can cook for 40 people daily. “She has seen me and she has heard about her grandmother and she knows we can manage,” she said proudly.

“Our aim was that you [girls] stay more involved with your husbands instead of on your phones in long conversations with friends,” she added.