May 16, 2025
Lorde just opened up about feeling "in the middle gender-wise."
The Ribs singer explained that she felt “resistant” in putting a label on her gender stating how there are days where she is "a woman" and others "when [she is] a man."
Opening up about her “more expansive” identity, the opening lines of her upcoming album, Virgin would also be, “Some days I’m a woman/Some days I’m a man.”
In a chat with Rolling Stone, when asked how she identifies herself, Lorde revealed, “[Chappell Roan] asked me this. She was like, ‘So, are you nonbinary now?”
She continued, "And I was like, ‘I’m a woman except for the days when I’m a man.’ I know that’s not a very satisfying answer, but there’s a part of me that is really resistant to boxing it up.”
“My gender got way more expansive when I gave my body more room,” the Royals hitmaker added.
Additionally, the New Zealand singer and songwriter recalled taping her chest and feeling intense because of it "not being a permanent solution."
While she wrote a track titled Man of the Year, she visualized a version of herself that was "fully representative of how [her] gender felt in that moment," and then she saw herself wearing a gold chain, in men’s jeans and duct tape on her chest.
“I went to the cupboard, and I got the tape out, and I did it to myself,” she revealed.
“I have this picture staring at myself. I was blond [at the time]. It scared me what I saw. I didn’t understand it. But I felt something bursting out of me. It was crazy. It was something jagged. There was this violence to it,” Lorde further recalled.
“I don’t think that [my identity] is radical, to be honest. I see these incredibly brave young people, and it’s complicated,” she added.
Towards the conclusion, Lorde expressed, “Making the expression privately is one thing, but I want to make very clear that I’m not trying to take any space from anyone who has more on the line than me. Because I’m, comparatively, in a very safe place as a wealthy, cis, white woman.”